Last night, we celebrated Kevin's 30th Birthday. It was a perfect night - surrounded by great food, good beer, and the people that we love! It was really a nice illustration of the richness of our lives. But, along with the planning came a lot of reflection (on my part, can't speak for Kevin) on what it means to be getting 'older.' I'm 28 at the time, but they say girls are 2 years more mature than boys. So, I don't know if that means I'm mentally 30 or if Kevin is mentally 28 - but the truth is that there's a lot more you realize with "age" - for better or for worse, so here goes.
The older I get, the more I realize how important relationships are: not quantity, but quality...and how listening (and asking questions) is the key to a great relationship. So, whether it's family or friends, I constantly trying to make it less about me and more about them. And frankly, I have a lot of work to do here. All in all, I'm loving how much closer we are to our family and friends now that we've moved back to Mpls. THIS is what helps brush off the crappy weather we have here. But seriously, we should ALL think about moving together to a warmer place.
The older I get, the more I realize there's waaaaaaay more to making a good career for yourself than just doing a good job. Which sucks, because really, I just want to go do a good job and move-on-up. It's really more like a game of chess - which I can't even really tell you how to play chess. I guess it's just trial & error and taking chances.
The older I get, the more I realize how hard it is to get rich - and I also realize how I don't really care if I'm rich, I just care that I can have a comfortable life. I mean, once upon a time, I thought I was going to have a big house and a red Corvette by the time I turned 26. Bahahaha.
The older I get, the more I realize how women can let society's pressures get to them. I used to have this vision that motherhood + careerdom + being hot + homemaking + friendships + more could all add up to pure awesomeness. But more and more, I know that one cannot be awesome at all of these things - and I'm not even a Mom yet. And I also realize how grown women can constantly feel inadequate. It's because we compare ourselves too often - and we have to stop that, but we won't stop, so we just have to live with it.
The older I get, the more I realize that the more comfortable I am with who I am on the inside, the more UNcomfortable I will get with who I am on the outside.
The older I get, the more I realize that this might actually be MID-life. Zoiks.
And finally, the older I get, the more I realize how I struck gold when I found Kevin. Seriously though - when it comes to husbands, it doesn't get that much better than this :) This Feb marks 8 years since our first date. Crazy. Looking forward to the next 8 years, Babe - It's going to be a wild ride!!
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